From Wikipedia: “Resonance is a phenomenon that occurs when an object or system is subjected to an external force or vibration that matches its natural frequency.” Also from Wikipedia: “Limbic resonance is the idea that the capacity for sharing deep emotional states arises from the limbic system of the brain….
It’s not you. It’s not me. It’s US.
A deceptively simple-seeming concept I’ve been giving a lot of thought to recently can be summed up like this: “It’s not you. It’s not me. It’s US.” Seeing a relationship like this lets both parties see it as something outside themselves. Something that exists independently, and therefore as something that…
Reframing, or Perspectives con’t
Let’s start with a definition of terms, from Wikipedia: Cognitive reframing is a psychological technique that consists of identifying and then disputing irrational or maladaptive thoughts. Reframing is a way of viewing and experiencing events, ideas, concepts, and emotions to find more positive alternatives. In other words, reframing is taking…
Shift Your Perspective
This is an amalgamation of what started out as 3 posts on a previous blog. I’ve edited it heavily and in the end decided to combine the whole thing into one longer piece, hoping that the resulting total is indeed more than the sum of its parts. Trust me, it’s…
5 Reasons I Jumped Careers at 40
I’ll be the first to admit that jumping from IT operations manager to freelance writer seems, well, a bit far-fetched. When you look at some episodes from my working life, however, it will start to make more sense. I hope. I always did great in English class. My college papers…
5 Lessons I Learned Jumping Careers At 40
Ed note: This essay started live back in 2019 when I was indeed freelancing right at the start of my new career as a writer. As of mid-2020, I have been employed full-time as an in-house writer, first on a contract basis, then moving to FTE status in my current…
Notes From Liminal Spaces 1 | Car Dealership Waiting Room
Car dealership waiting rooms are their own special kind of hell…I mean, liminal space. Bad coffee, cheap snacks, yesterday’s physical newspaper, and a TV blaring whatever channel whoever last had the remote left on. (side note: I cannot recommend this device highly enough for anyone who spends any amount of…
Paying Attention…on Purpose
Before you ask, no, this won’t devolve into a rant about the “attention economy.” At least, I hope it won’t. Paying attention is a bit of a trigger for me these days. After being knocked off my motorcycle by an inattentive driver who ran a stop sign I started seeing…
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Writing Processes, Side Projects, and Time Sucks…Oh My!
Update: I started this draft as something to end ’22 with, and it ended up taking on a life of its own. Then my company had what’s euphemistically called a RIF, or Reduction In Force, and my team went from 6 to 2—me and the social media guy are the…
Who decided we all needed to have our collective shit together, anyway?
A lot of ink, digital and otherwise, has been spilt discussing the cult of busyness in society these days. So if you think I’m going to spill more in an attempt at muddying the waters with yet one more opinion…you’re right. You know me so well. Despite my best efforts,…