A deceptively simple-seeming concept I’ve been giving a lot of thought to recently can be summed up like this: “It’s not you. It’s not me. It’s US.” Seeing a relationship like this lets both parties see it as something outside themselves. Something that exists independently, and therefore as something that…
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Reframing, or Perspectives con’t
Let’s start with a definition of terms, from Wikipedia: Cognitive reframing is a psychological technique that consists of identifying and then disputing irrational or maladaptive thoughts. Reframing is a way of viewing and experiencing events, ideas, concepts, and emotions to find more positive alternatives. In other words, reframing is taking…
Shift Your Perspective
This is an amalgamation of what started out as 3 posts on a previous blog. I’ve edited it heavily and in the end decided to combine the whole thing into one longer piece, hoping that the resulting total is indeed more than the sum of its parts. Trust me, it’s…
5 Reasons I Jumped Careers at 40
I’ll be the first to admit that jumping from IT operations manager to freelance writer seems, well, a bit far-fetched. When you look at some episodes from my working life, however, it will start to make more sense. I hope. I always did great in English class. My college papers…
5 Lessons I Learned Jumping Careers At 40
Ed note: This essay started live back in 2019 when I was indeed freelancing right at the start of my new career as a writer. As of mid-2020, I have been employed full-time as an in-house writer, first on a contract basis, then moving to FTE status in my current…
What’s the common denominator?
I’ve found myself using this expression a lot over the last two years. It generally pops up in a conversation when someone is moaning about how they were wronged over and over in relationships, personal or professional. Somehow, magically, it’s always somebody else who did the thing that caused the…